Sunday, June 29, 2008

Mixed Families....Different but the Same

What a great weekend! Even though it's about to be Monday soon, at least I am comforted by the thoughts of a short work week, thanks to July 4th. Add that to my doctor's appt. on Thurs., and we are sittin' pretty with a 3.5 day work week! Yeah!!

This weekend we had a bday party to attend for our good friends' 2 year old twins, who are absolutely adorable. It was wonderful to see a lot of our friends there, we always have a great time hanging out within our "circle of friends." As a few of my gal pals and I were sitting around the table chatting about life, kids, and marriage, it was brought to our attention that all of us are in some type of "mixed" marriage; resulting in at least one child. It's so ironic that within this close knit group of friends, that race or color is or has never been a focal point or issue. It brings me to the phrase..."Different but the Same." Because that is what we represent: black, brown, white, and the spectrum between, different cultures, backgrounds and races. We are a sacrament to the American Melting Pot. What makes this group so different than anybody else?
We all are hardworking, caring, dependable, loyal, respectful, funny (well, maybe not everyone.. :) honorable and dedicated to our families. Wait a minute, where exactly is the difference? ...... Point in case...we're not. What's different: color, race, ethnicity and backgrounds. And that my friends is the beauty of friendship, bringing together differences and similarities. The yin and yang of life. Chow!


Pamela said...

I can totally relate to this entry. I have friends in interracial marriages and friends that are in same race marriages or relationships. My "mixed" relationship feels "normal" to me and I sometimes forget that its not the "norm". Part of what makes us unique is our understanding and acceptance of each other. We are aware that there are times when society may not agree with our lifestyle but, its okay. There will always be questions from strangers and that, too, is okay. We've got honest answers and we're not afraid to use them. My biggest issue right now is not what society thinks about my black baby's daddy. Its what product I can create to take the frizzies out of Remi's lovely biracial locks of hair.

browngirlspeak said...

Thank-you for your comment! It's great to hear feedback from others that are also in similar situations. I feel as though the questions will always be there; but how we choose to respond or represent will be worth its weight in gold. As for the hair...out here we live in "dry" heat, so we don't have to combat the humidity, like most :) I remember those days though! My hair was a train wreck! Keep blogging!

chamberswi said...

As the grandmother of a biracial granddaughter,I see this blog as a wonderful source of understanding. Even though we "boomers" are the first generation to openly experience interacial dating, we aren't as evolved as our kids today. They are teaching us even more about love and human kindness. As Michelle Obama would say, "for the first time in America," I am so proud!!!!